It is about seeking to connect with others not just interested in them blindly saying yes to whatever you have to offer.
It looks like you being willing to hear NO and being okay with that.
How to hear God's heart for the people you are called to serve and engage in convertsations with them that establishes, builds and sustains long-lasting relationships.
How to engage in setting up WIN, WIN, WIN situations. A win for them, a win for you, and a win for the kingdom (as in you will obediently serve those you are called to serve with love).
How to engage in having meaningful convertsations with those you are called to serve where they are hanging out the most.
How to gladly participate in convertsations with those you are called to serve and invite them to powerfully choose to work with you in accordance with the will of God for their life.